The Perfect Body
This blog post is dedicated to Catherine Adams, an incredibly beautiful, caring, and loving mom and an amazing friend! Much love to you.
If I were to ask you all to explain to me societies perception of a perfect body how many of you would automatically think of another person whether that be someone famous, a family member, or a friend? Now what if I asked you to explain to me your perception of a perfect body would you have the same checklist as society? I asked my sister what she perceives as societies expectations for girls and she gave me quite a lengthy list: big boobs, curvy, perfect skin, no muscle but not bony thing, can’t be too thin but no fat either, long legs, thigh gap etc. Then I asked her what her idea of a perfect body is and she said, “I don’t me, you, dad, mom.” That shocked me (but also made me so proud – society hasn’t touched her, praying it never will!) A body is a body right? Is it really necessary to have a definition of perfect? There are 7 billion different bodies on this plant and I believe that each one should be accepted. In treatment we did an exercise where we drew what we thought we looked like on a big piece of butcher paper and then the therapists had us lay down and they drew around our actual outline. Each one of the patients drew a person that was a) not themselves on any level and b) overweight. The media has created a new f word. Fat can’t be a bad word, it shouldn’t be a bad word. Skinny is a compliment and fat can ruin someone’s day? A size 0 is a New Year’s resolution and size 14 is a shame for many. I for one am not looking forward to the New Year’s talk of everyone’s new diet and weight loss program, quite frankly, I don’t care. The diet industry makes twenty billion dollars a year from over 108 millions customers*. They use advertising tactics such as shaming people for how much they have eaten over the holidays or pushing the upcoming bikini season. So why does the diet industry make this much money and have this many customers; you got it, SOCIETY promotes these ideals. Fat which has become like a curse word is associated with being lazy, undisciplined, dumb, weak, unworthy and I could go on. But why? Why does the way your body is shaped define who you are inside? People associate being overweight with depression but I would be too if I was constantly shamed, persecuted, and hated on for what I looked like. Our society has this idea that women (and I only speak about women because I can speak from experience but I know this is an issue for men as well) need to be skinny, but not TOO skinny. They need big boobs, a big butt, and still have curves. They need to look good in a bikini and in every outfit they wear out. We have entire magazines, TV shows, businesses, etc. dedicated to shaming celebrities for the outfits they wear. We have scales of rating women but how can we put everyone on the same scale when everyone is so different! I look at myself and want to love myself just the way I look at other people and love their bodies. Everybody is a beautiful body. There is only one F word (and it rhymes with luck). I want to say to every single human being out there that despite what society says, despite what people comment, if you are healthy then your body is a beautiful body.